Do you ever find yourself setting a goal but being unable to complete it?
Maybe you set out to lose weight but find yourself binge eating on chips. Or maybe you tell yourself you will finally leave the job you hate but you keep procrastinating on updating your resume.
Regardless of your situation, chances are you’ve experienced a failed goal.
Because our subconscious brain likes to protect us, it often will cause us to unknowingly sabotage our goals. Although we may consciously think we want to achieve the goal, we unconsciously want to avoid any failure and future feelings of disappointment. To avoid these negative feelings, our brain sabotages our goals so that we are kept as ‘safe’ as possible. To our subconscious mind, goals are dangerous because it means change (and change means a potential for failure & discomfort). Self-sabotage comes into play because it is the brain’s way to keep you safe within the confines of your comfort zone.
By being aware of how you may be sabotaging your goals, you are much more likely to stop the sabotaging antics in its tracks. Instead of letting your unconscious mind run the show, read on to learn how you may be sabotaging your goals.
YOUR GOALS ARE TOO VAGUE
When reflecting on your goals, are they specific enough?
If you are finding yourself making goals like ‘workout more’, ‘make more money’, or ‘go on vacation’, then you need to go deeper and create more in-depth goals. Ask yourself questions like how often do you want to work out, why do you want to make more money, and where do you want to go on vacation and for how long do you want to be away?
It’s much easier to go after a goal if you specifically know what the result will look like. If you can’t easily articulate your goals in a way that allows you to know exactly what the goal is, then your goal is too vague (and vague goals rarely see results).
THE GOALS DONT EXCITE YOU
Why bother working on a goal if it doesn’t excite you?
Exciting goals keep you motivated and are enjoyable to accomplish. Obviously, it’s much easier to put in the work to complete exciting goals because you have something positive to look forward to. Therefore, if the goal isn’t exciting, then you are just wasting time and energy on something that isn’t important to you.
However, sometimes the ego likes to drive the show, and you may find yourself getting caught up in non-exciting, ego-based goals. These ego-based goals may occur when you feel like you ‘should’ accomplish the goal, setting the goal for the sake of pleasing someone or wanting to work on the goal because you are too much of a perfectionist to give up on it. Whatever reason you give yourself for chasing non-exciting goals, it’s important to change up the goal so that it excites you.
A good exercise to create exciting goals is the Be, Do, & Have exercise. What type of woman do you see yourself being, doing, and having? Envisioning your ‘ideal’ self is a great way to know what type of person you want to become, do, and have. You likely are excited to achieve these attributes so it’s a good method to base your goals on.
THE GOAL DOESN’T HAVE A DEADLINE
If the goal doesn’t have a deadline for it, how will you stay motivated to reach it when you subconsciously know that you have all the time in the world to finish it?
A lack of a set deadline is an excuse to procrastinate and avoid working on the goal. If you don’t have a deadline, you are not very likely to succeed in reaching the goal. You are letting procrastination win, and letting yourself avoid any potential progress.
Now it is possible to succeed without a deadline but it is a lot harder to do so because most people can’t stay motivated without one. So if you want to increase your chances of succeeding on your goal, then it’s best that you set a time limit on your goals.
Ideally, when do you want to achieve the goal by? Set a date and stick to it. A good test to ensure that your deadline is appropriate is asking yourself if there is enough time for you to actually accomplish the goal but also that there is not too much time that you aren’t motivated enough to start acting on it now.
YOU’RE DABBLING WITH YOUR GOAL-SETTING
If you are dabbling in a goal, you aren’t committing. In order to get 100% out a goal, you need to give it 100%.
You won’t get the results you want if you are dabbling with your goals because dabbling effort gets dabbling results. So decide now how committed you are to reaching your goals.
How badly do you crave change?
How badly do you want to reach that goal?
Make the choice to go 100%, and put in the effort to reach the finish line.
Now is the time to stop second-guessing yourself. Now is the time to choose to commit. Because if you don’t commit, you can’t expect to get results.
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