Earlier this week, I celebrated my 25th birthday. And while I’m officially 25, I still can’t believe that I’m already a quarter of a century old (time really flies!)! As I reflect on the last 25 years, I’d like to think that I’ve learned a thing or two about life and living well.
So here are 25 things I’ve learned in 25 years:
1) Remember what matters most in life. Life is full of distractions that pull you away from what’s really important. Therefore, make an effort to remember what your values and priorities are, and make decisions based on them.
2) Don’t hold grudges. Everyone is human, and people make mistakes. People may do or say something that causes you pain, but that does not mean you need to hold onto that pain. Take the high road and choose forgiveness – life is too short not to.
3) Take time to relax. We are often taught to see the value in the hustle – work hard and you will see the reward. But it’s important not to forget the hustle’s counterpart (relaxation) because, without it, you may feel overwhelmed and stress. So replenish your batteries and relax.
4) You are not a number on a scale. Your value is not your weight. Your weight will always fluctuate, so don’t worry too much about it. Actually, don’t worry about it at all.
5) Reach out for help when needed. You are not superwoman and you don’t need to do everything yourself. Two is always better than one so don’t feel like you have to do it alone.
6) Follow your intuition. Your gut instinct never lies so listen to it.
7) Good listening skills will never steer you wrong. People always appreciate a good listener. It makes them feel valued, important and appreciated. Too many people are caught up in their own thoughts and concerns that good listening skills have diminished. Being a good listener can also really come in handy when gift shopping (as you are more likely to pick up on hints and clues!).
8) Always wear sunscreen. And always reapply it too – your future skin will thank you.
9) When you are feeling down, listen to (upbeat) music. It may not completely cheer you up, but it will help.
10) Everyone has their own struggles. Everyone has both good and bad days. Don’t judge people because you don’t know what they’ve been through.
11) You don’t want to spend time with anyone who doesn’t want to spend time with you. If you’ve ever been not been invited (or dis-invited) to an event you know it can kind of sting. However, I’ve realized that if you don’t want to invite me, then I don’t want to hang out with you – you just aren’t worth my time (or my hurt feelings).
12) Don’t take your loved ones for granted. On the few times that I’ve seen my patients’ loved ones say their last goodbyes, I’ve been reminded of this. The people we love won’t be around forever so make an effort to spend time with them. You will never regret the time you spend with them, but you will regret the times that you do not.
13) You don’t need another new top to add to your collection of clothes. It may make you happy in the moment, but the feeling won’t last (plus the top will eventually be found on the floor). Your bank account will also appreciate the extra money.
14) Exercise. It will make a happier (and nicer) person. You will also live longer.
15) You are fortunate so be grateful. There are so many people in the world that have it so much harder than you do. Instead of continuously wanting more, be grateful for what you have.
16) Don’t drink the Tequila. And when you are told it’s ‘dirty water’, it’s a lie – it’s Tequila.
17) Other’s opinions don’t matter. To be honest, I really struggle with this but it’s an important one to remember. There will always be angry, judgmental people in the world, and you cannot please everyone (so stop trying).
18) Laugh until you cry. Happiness is contagious
19) Drink plenty of water. It’s hydrating, and most people don’t get enough.
20) It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to be upset. It doesn’t mean you are weak or emotional. It just means you are human. Plus, you will feel better once you let it out.
21) Give generously. I love giving people gifts. It’s exciting thinking about what to get them and envisioning how they may react. I also think that the more you give, the more that karma will reward you in the future.
22) Nothing is worth stressing over. Everything works out in the end so stop wasting energy stressing. I know this is easier said than done, but it’s so important to remind ourselves that nothing is worth the stress.
23) Save your money. Spend your money wisely and invest in things that matter.
24) Stop striving for perfection. Nothing (and nobody) is perfect. Perfection is a gloss, and unattainable so you cannot expect to achieve it.
25) You can enjoy your cake (and eat it too). Life’s too short to count the calories, and you deserve to indulge a little!